Thought I was gonna say 'sex,' didn't ya? *grins*
So you want to write erotic m/m fiction, eh? Well, there's one word you need to remember, one key element: RESEARCH.
*insert whines and groans* Yeah, yeah...I know. Research can be a royal pain in the...well...you know. But research for writing m/m can be FUN! (As half of my 80gig hard drive can tell ya. *winks*)
There are many sites for researching - and/or helping with - erotic scenes. However, there are only a minute amount that help with writing m/m. So, why do you need to do your homework with this stuff? Isn't it just 'insert Tab A into Slot B'?
We've covered the issue of lubrication and what to do if there's no Wet readily available. Now we're gonna touch on the issue of the actual physical mechanics of men-on-men. Or, as it were, men-IN-men.
First, the best resource out there is Minotaur's Q & A: A Searchable Database of Sex Tips for Slash Writers. Extensive site, browseable and searchable, with the option to ask your own questions of the wonderful Minotaur. (And yes, Minotaur IS a guy. I met him at Con-Txt in Silver Spring, Maryland. LOL) Here's the link: http://www.squidge.org/~minotaur/mqa/index.html
Forums are also another place to find excellent help if you need it. The two best I'm active at are:
ERWF (Erotic Romance Writers' Forum) - not solely m/m authors, but we're rather prominent. This forum is extremely active and unbelievably helpful for anything you can imagine. I highly recommend stopping by.
Sticky Pen - this is a wonderful website/story database with a very active group on the forum. It's for posting (free) stories of m/m loving. LOTS of men here, so if you've got a question you can't find the answer for, chances are you can post your question in the forums and get a multitude of answers.
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Now comes the fun part: the...*ahem*...research materials. Oh, come on...you can't write m/m without at least LOOKING at gay porn. Granted, the scripts suck eggs and the music leaves a LOT to be desired. But, hey, that's what the volume knob is for. *winks* Who cares what they're saying (which usually consists of grunts and groans and 'oh, yeah' and...you get the idea)? What you want to do is watch for positions and techniques. I'm serious here. *shushes the peanut gallery*
Pay close attention to the angles (of the bodies, not the camera), the looks on the men's faces when they come, the way the stomach muscles tighten just at the moment of.......umm.....yeah....*clears throat*
Anyway, you get the idea. Do your homework. If you've got questions, by all means, don't hesitate to ask a fellow m/m author (or a gay man!).
Now I'll open the floor for questions - about positions, about research, porn requests, you name it. ;)